Step 2: Do I Like Myself? The Shocking Revelation Before My Morning Coffee!

Picture this: It’s a cozy Sunday morning. The aroma of freshly brewed coffee fills the air, your cozy slippers are hugging your feet, and as you stare deep into the abyss of your latte, a profound question hits you like a rogue marshmallow –

“Do I like myself?”

Now, if you choked on your espresso (or spat out your tea if you’re the fancy type), you’re not alone. This is pillar 1: creating inner clarity to light the way, and if you’re thinking, “Inner clarity before caffeine? Madness!”, bear with me.

In step 1, we determined what we wanted and what the end goal was. Now, for the second step in pillar 1, it’s time to dig into yourself.

The Grand Self Discovery Tour


Spoiler alert: It’s not about treks in the Himalayas or swimming with dolphins (though both sound delightful). It’s about delving into the mystical caverns of your soul, armed with a flashlight of introspection. So, pack your proverbial bags, because the journey of a lifetime is about to commence, and the destination? YOU.

Now, you may wonder, “Why should I embark on this epic quest of self-awareness?” For starters, how well do you really know yourself? Do you know yourself enough to genuinely answer, “Do I like myself?” without the hesitation of a cat facing a bath?

Here are somethings to consider answering to help you know yourself better.

  • Values & Beliefs: Core principles and unwavering convictions.
  • Passions & Interests: Activities and topics that captivate you.
  • Strengths & Weaknesses: Natural talents and areas of challenge.
  • Emotional Reactions: Responses to life’s ups and downs, and their triggers.
  • Life Goals: Short and long-term aspirations and desired milestones.
  • Relationship Patterns: Dynamics in personal and romantic interactions.
  • Boundaries: Emotional, mental, and physical limits and their assertion.
  • Personal Growth: Evolution over time and areas for further development.
  • Feedback from Others: External perceptions and their alignment with self-view.
  • Life Experiences: Key events that shape your outlook and interpretations.

Taking time to reflect on each of these bullet points can offer valuable insights into understanding yourself better. After all, as the old saying goes, the unexamined life is not worth living!

Personal Development Isn’t Just a Fancy Buzzword


You see, personal development isn’t just a way to spruce up your resume or impress your friends with profound quotes. It’s about understanding your essence, elevating your potential, and transforming not just yourself, but also the dynamics with your significant other. Because guess what? When you shine brighter, they get a suntan! 

Ever stood in front of a mirror and thought, “Who IS that magnificent creature?” Welcome to the dazzling world of self-discovery! Spoiler: The results of this deep dive aren’t just limited to sassy mirror pep talks.

1. Personal Life: Learning about oneself is like getting a software upgrade. Suddenly, you’re responding to life’s glitches with fewer meltdowns. Forgot an umbrella? It’s a chance to test out your new “wet dog” look. Embracing your quirks makes every day feel like a sitcom where YOU are the star!

2. Professional Realm: Dive deep enough into your psyche, and you’ll find skills you didn’t know existed. Spreadsheet wizardry? Check. Mind-reading your boss’s “urgent” emails? Double-check. With this newfound self-awareness, you’re not just climbing the corporate ladder; you’re moonwalking up it.

3. Romantic Antics: Ever tried translating the silent language of love? With your enhanced self-knowledge, reading between the lines of text messages becomes child’s play. Suddenly, “Take out the trash” decodes as, “A candlelit dinner would be nice.” Aha! Self-awareness for the romantic win.

In essence, introspection is the Swiss Army knife of life, equipping you for personal escapades, boardroom battles, and the unpredictable terrain of love. Dive in, and watch every aspect of your life get a splash of pizzazz! ❤️

Kickstarting the Journey

So, where do you start? A hint: It’s simpler than assembling IKEA furniture, and way more fulfilling. Here are some suggestions.

  • Journaling: Reflect on your thoughts, feelings, and experiences daily.
  • Reading Fiction: Dive into diverse characters and scenarios to gain insights into human emotions and motivations.
  • Reading Non-Fiction: Explore self-help, psychology, and philosophy books to understand human behavior and the self.
  • Meditation and Mindfulness: Connect with your innermost feelings and thoughts, being present in the moment.
  • Life or Relationship Coaching: Gain expert insights tailored to your individual journey.
  • Courses: Enroll in workshops or online classes focusing on personal growth or specific areas of interest.
  • Feedback from Trusted Ones: Encourage close friends or family to share their observations about you.
  • Travel: Experience new cultures and environments to understand your adaptability and perspective.
  • Personality Tests: Tools like the Myers-Briggs or the Enneagram can provide insights into your traits and tendencies.

Remember, the journey to self-awareness is ongoing. Each method offers a unique lens to view and understand oneself better. Choose the ones that resonate with you, and embrace the adventure!

A little food for thought – You wouldn’t hand a random stranger a moldy sandwich, right? (If you would, we need to chat). So why, oh why, would you treat yourself any less lovingly? Treat yourself better than you’d treat a stranger, because you, my friend, are worth every ounce of love and clarity.

Buckle up, dear reader. By the end of this enlightening journey, not only will you have a clearer answer to “Do I like myself?” but you’ll probably be ready to date yourself! (Just don’t forget to pick up the bill).

The Recipe for Embracing Your Quirks


Ever had that existential crisis where you’re stuck between deciding whether to have a pizza or a salad, and you think, “Do I even know myself?”

Well, Tony Robbins might say, “The quality of your life is the quality of your questions!” So, perhaps the question isn’t “Pizza or salad?” but “Do I know myself well enough to appreciate my wacky, often confusing, but delightful quirks?”

Robbins often talks about the power of decision. I mean, one decision and bam! You’ve either joined the “crunchy greens club” or the “cheesy bliss brigade”. The legendary motivational guru would argue that it’s our decisions that shape destiny.

So, are you destined to be someone who snickers at their reflection or someone who offers a confident nod of approval?

It’s a quirky journey of self-discovery.

So, take massive action. Start with chuckling at your odd sock choices or that inexplicable habit of laughing at the most inopportune moments. Knowing yourself is the first step.

Liking yourself? Well, that’s the beautiful aftermath, filled with pizzas, salads, and Tony Robbins’ infectious clapping. Remember, as Robbins would put it, “Progress equals happiness.” So, here’s to progressing toward embracing our nutty selves!

The Dual Magic of Self-Growth

Delving into self-awareness and personal growth not only enhances one’s individual journey but profoundly benefits romantic relationships. By understanding our triggers, desires, and boundaries, we foster clearer communication and deeper empathy.

As we evolve, we not only meet our needs but also become more attuned to our partner’s nuances. This ongoing journey of self-improvement results in a relationship environment rich in mutual respect, understanding, and growth.

The ripple effect? An empowered partnership where both individuals flourish, celebrating their combined strengths and compassionately navigating challenges together.

Knowing yourself within the bounds of your relationship may include how you:

  • Communicate: When conveying your needs are you direct or hinting?
  • Conflict Resolution: Do you confront, avoid, or compromise during disagreements?
  • Attachment Styles: Secure, anxious, avoidant, or mixed?
  • Physical Intimacy: What is your expression of affection and boundaries?
  • Shared GrowthHow do you share and provide support in each other’s goals?
  • Unexpressed Fantasies: What are your hidden desires and reasons for withholding?
  • Fear of Judgment: What do you hold back due to societal norms?
  • Past Influences: What historical events influence what you hide?
  • Alignment with Current Life: How do these secrets affect your life?
  • Exploration & Acceptance: Are you open to safely delve into desires? Yours and your partners?
  • Repercussions of Suppression: What are the effects of unvoiced desires on your well-being and relationships?

Recognizing and addressing these deeper and often veiled aspects of oneself is a journey of vulnerability and courage. It often requires a safe space and sometimes the guidance of a counselor or therapist, especially if there are challenges in understanding or reconciling with these facets of one’s identity.

Unearthing the Quirks: Wrapping Up

And there you have it, explorers of the self! The voyage into our own psyche isn’t just about silent introspection; it’s about embracing diverse tools and paths to truly know ourselves. As you step forward on this quest, remember that every perspective adds a new layer to your understanding. And hey, speaking of perspectives, we’d love to hear from you. Drop a comment below with:

  • The weirdest thing you discovered about yourself recently.
  • If you were a fictional character, who would you be and why?
  • A self-help book title you’d author, given the chance.

Remember, it’s the quirky, the unexpected, and the unique that often lead to the most profound discoveries. Dive in, share away, and happy self-exploring!

2 thoughts on “Step 2: Do I Like Myself? The Shocking Revelation Before My Morning Coffee!

  1. Ashley says:

    Thank you for delving into the intriguing journey of self-discovery and self-awareness. Your article beautifully captures the essence of introspection and its role in personal growth and relationships. The analogy of embarking on an enlightening adventure within oneself is both relatable and thought-provoking. The suggestions for exploring different facets of one’s personality and the significance of understanding oneself within the context of relationships provide valuable insights. As someone who values personal development, I appreciate the emphasis on embracing quirks and celebrating uniqueness. Your article serves as a motivating reminder to continually seek self-awareness and growth.

    1. CoachKaty says:

      It’s great that article resonated with you! Your perspective on self-discovery and introspection is truly insightful. Building on your observations, I’d be curious to know if there’s a particular facet of self-awareness that you find more challenging or rewarding than others? And did you find any part of the article that you could relate to on a personal level or perhaps thought could be elaborated further? Engaging in these introspective journeys, as you aptly mentioned, can indeed be enlightening. I’d love to hear more about your experiences or any recommendations you might have.

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